Disagree Better: Wheatley Institute at BYU and USU Extension Launch New Parenting Toolkit at the National Governor's Association Spring Meeting
New parenting program offers research-based tips, tools, and ideas to help children learn how to be peacemakers and manage differences with others in better ways
NASHVILLE, Tenn., May 14, 2024 /PRNewswire/ -- Contentious conversations and deep differences are dividing countries, communities, and families, but disagreeing better is possible. Scholars from the Wheatley Institute at Brigham Young University and from Utah State University Extension collaborated to create Disagree Better: A Parenting Toolkit, which is a free online resource to help families learn how to better manage disagreements inside and outside of their homes. The team will present this parent education program at the National Governor's Association Meeting today in Nashville, Tennessee. The Disagree Better Parent Toolkit can be accessed at DisagreeBetter.usu.edu.
David Schramm, USU Extension family life specialist, created the bulk of three short e-courses to help parents and children learn principles and practices for better disagreements both inside and outside their homes. Jason Carroll, Director of the Family Initiative at the Wheatley Institute at Brigham Young University, collaborated and directed the project.
Schramm said the plan was to create simple, short, free online modules for parents to help them learn and apply principles related to civility, kindness, understanding, and respect.
Drawing on research, Schramm said the three lessons offer trusted tips, tools, and ideas to manage differences in better ways and take 20-30 minutes each online. The first lesson, "Start with Me," is designed for parents to assess what kind of example they are to their children in showing respect to others, even those they disagree with. The second lesson offers tips on how to disagree better with family members at home. The third lesson focuses on better ways to manage disagreements with people outside of the home ? from friends and teachers, to posts on social media, to the referees at youth sports games.
"Better vision and understanding reveals that there is a person behind every problem. It all starts with learning, living, and sharing these principles at home," Schramm said. The lessons emphasize what we call the PAUSE approach to handling disagreements, which involves Pausing, Asking sincere questions, aiming for Understanding, Seeking common ground, and Engaging in respectful discussion.
"In this time of polarization and contention, we need to help young people learn how to be peacemakers," Carroll explained. "This starts with each of us as parents and the type of example we are to our children in how we speak to and about others ? it's all about seeking to build bridges of understanding when we have differences of opinion."
The project is supported by the National Governors Association's (NGA) Disagree Better Initiative. Schramm said that by collaborating with the NGA the hope is that government officials from other states will share or link to these resources to help parents in their own states.
This parent toolkit was developed in support of Utah governor Spencer Cox's Disagree Better initiative. As this year's NGA president, Governor Cox launched this initiative to address the growing polarization and divisiveness in public discourse by encouraging citizens to engage in open, honest, and respectful conversations about important issues facing the state and the nation.
The initiative includes public events, workshops, and online resources designed to provide Utahns and others with the tools and skills needed to engage in productive dialogue across political, cultural, and social divides. The governor's office will partner with community organizations, schools, and local leaders to promote the initiative and encourage participation. USU Extension will promote efforts to invite parents to watch and learn from the free online courses.
"We know that conflict resolution takes work and involves difficult conversations," Cox was quoted on the Disagree Better website. "It's much easier to sow division than to persuade or find solutions. But we also know that no one ever changed someone's mind by attacking them. Through healthy conflict, we're confident that we can find common ground and improve our families, our communities, and our nation. Together, we can disagree better."
The full program can be reviewed at:
Contacts:
Jason Carroll, [email protected], 801-422-7529
David Schramm, [email protected], 435-797-8183
About the Wheatley Institute
The Wheatley Institute at Brigham Young University engages students, scholars, thought leaders and the public in research-supported work that fortifies the core institutions of the family, religion and constitutional government. Learn more at http://wheatley.byu.edu
About Utah State University Extension
The Utah State University Extension provides research-based programs and resources with the goal of improving the lives of individuals, families, and communities throughout Utah. USU Extension operates through a cooperative agreement between the United States Department of Agriculture, Utah State University, and country governments. To learn more about USU Extension courses for families go to https://extensioncourses.usu.edu/product-category/relationships.
SOURCE Wheatley Institute
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